Raising Awareness: "Badmom" Syndrome

"Badmom" Syndrome is a serious condition that effects millions of women worldwide. It's primary symptoms are emotional dysregulation, psychosomatic paralysis and excessive anxiety.
I am one of the afflicted.


Probably, so are you.




Ok, so I might be a little bit tongue-in-cheek.
There's no real "Badmom" Syndrome but it sure feels like it sometimes.

Doesn't it?
I'll be honest for a moment here; I've been seriously suffering from "Badmom" Syndrome lately. It seems like the older my children gets, the worse I feel about my parenting. I don't think it's supposed to be this way.

In general, I just feel like I'm coming up short in so many ways. I look at all their poor choices, and struggles and all of the "bad stuff" going on in their lives and I just know it's all my fault.

Oh, those poor choices get to me. Poor choices in language. Poor choices in friends. Poor choices in behavior. All my fault.

Yep. "Badmom" syndrome at it's worst.

Yet if I'm honest with myself, I have a lot of areas to work on AND I'm still doing the best I can at this moment. I could wish for a lot of things and feel bad because I don't have/do/say them... or I could accept life as it is right now and try to make the most of it. I could accept that my children will make poor choices as part of their journey in life. I could accept that I won't do everything perfectly - and neither will they.

I could accept instead of wallowing. Instead of suffering under the weight of "Badmom" Syndrome. Because you know what? The real "bad moms" in the world don't think they are. The real "bad moms" don't care.

Perhaps we should look to God's example. He doesn't suffer from "Baddad" Syndrome even though His children suffer, struggle and make poor choices. After all, if He were defined by our poor choices, He wouldn't be God, would He?

But He is.
He is who He says He is, so rest in who He says you are.
That's the cure for "Badmom" Syndrome.